How To Keep Your Resolutions

Here are some decisions I’ve made in the past.

Age 13: Never smoke or drink

Age 14: Never drink soft drinks

Age 15: Never bet money on football

Age 16: Stop playing computer games

Age 19: Stop watching TV

Age 19: Stop instant messaging / uninstall MSN messenger

Age 21: Only hang out with positive and passionate people

How many of these decisions have I kept?

All of them.

How do I do this?

I never really thought twice about this, but a recent conversation with a friend forced me to probe further to uncover the secret… which turns out to be nothing too crazy.

But I wanna share it with you anyway, in case you are struggling to stick to a resolution you made 3 months ago.

The friend I mentioned had accused me of having superhuman willpower. But no, willpower wasn’t a key ingredient at all. In fact, those decisions were as easy to stick to as “I will not beat up senior citizens”.

The way I see it, keeping a resolution starts with being clear about what you want, and what you don’t want in your life.

And I admit I don’t have much desire to beat up senior citizens. However, I’m clear that

  • I can want many things.
  • However, I will always want some things more than others.
  • To stick to a resolution, I have to want something more, and want competing things less.

Sounds simple? I’m a simple man, what can I say…. See my self-improvement BS in action!

REAL WORLD EXAMPLE

I’ve always wanted to start a gym routine, but somehow “cannot find the time”, or “feel lazy”.

Is it because I don’t want to work out? Of course I do. But at any given moment, I always wanted to work / sleep / be comfortable on my bed much more than I wanted to hit the gym.

Well, I made a decision 2 months ago to start a gym routine, and I’ve been quite consistent. Here’s how I did it:

  • Increase how much I want to work out
  • Decrease how much I want to do other stuff

How did I magically “want to work out more”? And double-magically “want to do other stuff less”?

I used this magic crystal staff I picked up during my Viking raids.

Apart from that, I associated other things I really want with working out, like having a sexy body and having a sharper, clearer mind. Lumping many desirable items together with logic makes me want to work out more.

Then, I associated many things I don’t want with the alternatives… I usually skip the gym due to “I have something to work on”, or seeking the comfort of home. So, I tied “feeling fat”, “feeling lethargic” and “cannot think straight” with skipping a session at the gym.

I keep these things in mind, and eventually it gets internalized and I never have to think twice.

CONCLUSION

Once I’m clear about what I really want in my life, the decisions are a no-brainer. All the decisions I listed above didn’t take me much effort.

If it’s a tough decision to make, and an even tougher one to stick by, I would question what I want, and how badly I want it.

And in many cases, the question is… Do I want change? Or do I want to stick to my comfort zone a bit more?

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If this is useful to you, let me know. If this somehow gets you killed, just forget about it.

14 comments on “How To Keep Your Resolutions

  1. swen April 2, 2007 2:02 am

    haHahHahahaha….how motivating. somehow i expected the list to be longer than that, but that will do actually!
    but there;s just one thing “Age 19: Stop watching TV”
    WHAT THE HELL!? thats crap.
    now make another list,
    “Age 22: Start watching TV” ;p

  2. khailee April 2, 2007 2:22 am

    Age 22: Beat up Swen with magic crystal staff whenever I see her

  3. Lezel April 2, 2007 9:28 am

    NO ONE CAN NOT WATCH TV WHETHER THEY WANT TO OR NOT!!! Dude, you have the mother of all tv in your house and its even connected to a dish!!! Furthermore, YOU WERE ON A TV SHOW?!?!?!?!?! Your list is super FLAWED 🙂 But you do have superhuman powers. That much is true.

  4. khailee April 2, 2007 9:41 am

    dare u doubt my superpowers????

    to be specific i dont turn on TV intentionally. watch dvds – yes, once in 2 weeks i guess.

    but tv is different. i used to watch so much MTV n channel V! it had to end.

    i may have taken it too far tho….

    i havent watched american idol, surviror, amazing race, whats that inxs thing, or all the stuff everyone seems to know about. i dont even download stuff to watch. havent seen Lost, Prison Break, Heroes etc…

  5. bodicea April 2, 2007 11:33 am

    “Age 13: Never smoke or drink”

    If my memory serves me right, didn’t some substance abuse result in you table dancing or some shuffling shit on New Year’s Eve? 😛

  6. khailee April 2, 2007 11:45 am

    i do that when im sober hahaha dont get me started on what u were doing at that party ;P

  7. khailee April 2, 2007 2:40 pm

    Age 22: Beat up bodicea & lezel up with magic crystal staff too

  8. Toothpick April 2, 2007 5:13 pm

    “If this somehow gets you killed, just forget about it.”

    If I’m already dead then how am I supposed to forget about it? Dude, I’m ALREADY dead!

    ;o)

  9. bodicea April 3, 2007 6:56 pm

    rofl. more people to beat up now? 😛

  10. Lezel April 4, 2007 2:32 pm

    you wont be 22 for much longer. 4 more weeks dude 🙂

  11. khailee April 4, 2007 3:39 pm

    no. im 22 forever.

  12. swen April 6, 2007 3:09 am

    haha living in denial!? haha forever 22

  13. alex lam May 21, 2007 7:01 am

    if you watch joost or youtube, it’s tv. 😀

  14. khailee May 21, 2007 7:07 am

    ok alex u got me 😉

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